Your Body is speaking to you, but what is it saying? How can a “Healer” help?

A meta physical guide to physical symptoms

Everything on the Physical plane is a manifestation of something on the Metaphysical plane.

When we speak of abundance, what we are really talking about is an abundance of emotional, mental and spiritual energy. We fill ourselves to the brim with these energies and it is the overflow that is manifest on the physical plane.

The signs and symptoms that are apparent on the Physical plane lead us to inquire, ultimately, more deeply into ourselves as energetic and spiritual beings.

We tend not to worry too much about this sort of thing when our body is working well, we are not feeling pain, or we are not in the throes of some chronic disease.


when our body feels pain or becomes disabled by disease or accident we tend to start reaching out for answers. 

We want to know why. Or maybe we don’t even want to know why we just want to fix something we perceive is broken.

Realistically, when our body refuses to do what we want it to, metaphysically, it is not actually broken. It is doing its job.

One of its functions is to carry messages from the higher energetic planes to us.

It is then up to us to interpret these messages and take action.

Western medicine takes the position that we feel pain because we can.

Treatment consists of numbing or diverting pain receptors in the body or cutting off the offending organ.

While this approach does have its place in acute situations, it is at best a temporary and often harmful way to approach pain or other disharmonies we feel in our bodies.

Most often, western medicine has little to offer most of us and incredibly makes us wait until our symptoms become unbearably acute before it can even acknowledge a disharmony.

The trend today, as much for economic reasons, as for reasons of spirit and human development is to encourage people to take responsibility for their own lives.

This is the approach of ancient wisdom. We use our bodies to communicate with our selves and with others. 

We use our bodies to work out emotional, mental and spiritual questions. While we do tend to judge a diseased body negatively, there really is no right or wrong about it.

What can a “Healer” Do about it?

The ancient Taoists theorized that good and bad, right and wrong, yin and yang, were just different points of view that we all adopt at one time or another.

Because the earth plane is dualistic in nature we all view, at one time or another from both the Yin and the Yang ends of the telescope.

There does not seem to be a point in judging one good and one bad or judging one good and one evil.

These just are the symptoms of being human.

Still, there is such a thing as being well, and there is such a thing as being sick.

When we get sick we tend to want to do something about it.

Enter the healer.

A healer is trained in the observation and interpretation of signs and symptoms, and in methods for dealing with and helping you facilitate healing them for good… layer by layer!.

“Wholeistic” Healing of the individual occurs at different energetic levels.

These are the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual levels. For those on the path, there are a great many more levels and sublevels identified in various cultural, religious and philosophical traditions…..

But for our purposes we can look at the individual in these four broad realms to at least begin the process of healing.

Healing by the way occurs not only at the individual level, but also at the family, community and global level. 

When one heals ‘mindfully’, as the Buddhists say, these other aspects of individual healing may become apparent.

Still, a good place to begin is in the individual body.

There are healers operating today at all these levels…..


please note there is a difference between a “Healer” and someone who is attuned to REIKI that wants your money (Please follow your intuition)

*** ANYONE who tells you they are the only ones who can help you and that NOONE else is “powerful” enough or if it feels narcissistic or controlling…. or NOT LOVE or true Guidance..

PLEASE… for your own good, bow out gracefully.

NOONE… and I do mean NOONE can “heal” you…. YOU heal you…. a Healer is only a facilitator of you receiving the healing that YOUR HIGHER self sends to you.****

With this in mind, the following is a list of physical symptoms and the metaphysical disharmonies they may reflect.

Louise Hay, in her book, ‘You Can Heal Your Life,’has done some interesting work in this area.

I use her book occasionally in my work. I also use chines medicine, Shamanism, REIKI, and my skills as a Medical Medium to channel wellness…

I am also using resources from other authors and Healers that I have learned through the years here to compile this for you!

Please note that these are only general observations, serving hopefully to illuminate areas that you can look at more closely in yourself or with the help of a true healer.

You are the one who knows you best. As you go through these observations, try to expand your awareness beyond your own life to see also how these disharmonies are reflected in your own family, community, country and in the world.

Ultimately it is our own choice to heal or not to heal and it is our own innate healing ability that is activated.


Headaches; Pain always indicates a separation of some sort from something. Usually we say separation from what is the Truth. The greater the pain the more important that something is. Depending on which part of the head is afflicted the meaning changes. Louise Hay suggests that Headaches indicate invalidating the Self out of Fear. In Chinese Medicine there are several different kinds of headaches according to the quality of the pain and the location on the head.

Vertex; The top of the head is associated with our connection to the Universe or God. Pain here is associated with separation from that higher power. It is also associated with the Kidneys and the emotion is Fear. Both the Gallbladder and Urinary Bladder channels traverse the top of the head. The Gallbladder is associated with Courage, and the Urinary Bladder through its associate with the Kidneys is associated with Fear. Du 20 (Baihui) located at the top of the head is used extensively to ‘calm the spirit’ in Chinese Medicine.

Forehead; The forehead is associated with the 3rd eye, both in Chakra Theory and Traditional Chinese Medical theory. The 3rd eye is associated with introspection and illumination of your own Inner Being. Pain here is associated with separation from your own Inner Being. In Chinese Medicine, Yintang, which is located midway between the inner ends of the eyebrows, Du 23 (Shangxing), Du 24 ( Shenting) which are located at the hairline directly above Yintang and Du 20 (Baihui) located at the top of the head, all have the action of ‘calming the spirit.’ Yintang is associated with the eyes; not only the eyes that look outward but the eyes that look inward and is indicated in some emotional disorders.

Temporal; The sides of the head are associated with courage, especially courage to face your world. Migraine Headaches, usually located in the front quadrants, right or left, indicates a separation from your world. The involvement of the eyes in Migraines indicate not only an unwillingness to look without, but to look within. 

Most Migraine sufferers report, not only severe pain behind the eye, but also acute sensitivity to light. In Chinese Medicine, a number of Meridians run through this area. The Gallbladder Channel is associated with courage. The San Jiao channel is involved with processing of water (the elixir of Life), and the Small Intestine Channel is involved with deriving nourishment from the world. Both the San Jiao Channel and the Small Intestine Channel are connected to the Heart, whose emotion is Joy and where the Mind is located. Lack of Joy (with one’s self) is strongly indicated by pain in this area. There is also Anger indicated by the Gallbladder channel’s link with the Liver.

Occipital; The back of the head represents your past. Some say also this is an area of spirituality. Pain here represents something in your past that is not complete and remains unforgiven. The back of the head is traversed by the Gallbladder Channel and the Urinary Bladder Channels indicating Anger born of Fear.

The Back of the Head is thought to be the seat of Spiritual Experiences. The only way to see them is through inner sight. Pain in the back of the head represents an unwillingness to look deep within for the source of Light & Truth.

Your Back

Spine; The Spine Represents the support you think you have in Life and your alignment with those supportive forces. Curved spine, or Scoliosis represents a misalignment with Life. Spasms represent an unwillingness to accept the support that is there.

Shoulders; Shoulders represent burdens and responsibilities. Frozen Shoulder for example represents a complete unwillingness to shoulder your responsibilities in Life, especially your own Life. Pain and dysfunction to varying degrees represents varying degrees of unwillingness to be responsible. Moving forward in Life sometimes requires that you ‘put your shoulder to the wheel’ to overcome inertia.

The back, in Chinese Medicine, is considered to be your Yang side; the active, aggressive, lighted side. The back also represents that which is behind you. Very often we do not see clearly that which is behind us. Back problems generally represent conflict between the urge to move forward and the inertia of an unforgiven past that holds us back. This tension very often separates us from both and pain is the result. Louse Hay suggests that backs generally represent support.

Mid back; The mid back is the link between the shoulder and the lower back. It can be a weak link. As we firm up our shoulders and become willing to take on the responsibilities of Life, and we have gathered around us the financial and emotional support we need (lower back), something sneaks up and stabs us in the back. This is a blind spot. Not only can we not see it, but is very difficult to reach. The weak link crumbles. It is the saboteur or seducer that takes us off our path. Located in this area are the Tonification points (called ‘Shu’ points) for the Liver, the Stomach, and the Spleen. These organs are responsible for the transformation and transportation of Qi, and the free flow of Qi in the body. Blockages here affect the entire body and can stop you dead in your tracks. The Spleen represents Worry or Overthinking and the Liver represents Anger or base emotions. Both of these can sabotage even the best laid plans. Louse Hay suggests that the mid-back represents Guilt and stuck in the past stuff.

Lower Back; The Lower Back represents support; financial support, emotional support of family and friends, and support of God or the Universe. The Kidneys are located in this area and Kidney dysfunction results in Fear/Fright/Phobias. A sore lower back may indicate that we have taken on more than we think we can handle. This is a dysfunction, only if it is not the Truth. If we have indeed taken on too much, that would be indicated by a physical trauma to the back and all we need to do is lighten the load. Chronic low back ache, though, not associated with any trauma is the one with the Metaphysical application, and the one related to Kidney depletion. Kidneys are considered to have a central function relative to other organs since it is where Yuan Qi or our Primary Essence is stored. Yuan Qi is also known as Primary Qi or Congenital Qi. It is the Qi you are born with and determines your relative strength in the world. It is considered to be quite difficult to strengthen an already weak Yuan Qi, but it can be done. Low back pain is often diminished by strengthening the Kidneys. In short, Low back pain, generally refers to a lack of trust in the Universe to protect and support. Louise Hay suggests Fear of money is indicated.

Coccyx; The Coccyx/Sacrum is the seat of Self-pity. There is a fear of asking for help. One would rather sit and feel sorry for one’s self than get of one’s ass and do something.

Your Legs

Hips; Hips represent decisions in Life, especially decisions about moving forward. Pain in the hips is a sign of being ‘stuck’, unable to make a decision, or see clearly what is needed to be done next. The process of walking requires that we first thrust the hip forward and the leg etc. follows. This is actually, an act of faith on our part, since we are quite literally initiating a fall to the ground and trusting that our legs will save us. The Gallbladder Channel traverses the hip which again represents Courage and confidence to move forward. Louise Hay suggests that hip problems represent fear of going forward with major decisions. Hips represent the idea that the next step in your life is important. Pain or discomfort advises you to slow down or stop, look around, buy a map, or ask someone for directions.

Upper Thighs; Thighs are the link between the Hips & decisions, and the Knees & pride. Very often, when we have made a decision and take the next step, Pride gets in the way. “What if I look stupid? What if it’s not right? What if it doesn’t work out?” Our knees lock up or turn to jelly, and we are prevented from moving forward. The pain that begins in the Hips and shoots down the Thigh (Sciatic Nerve), is the separation from our desire and decision to move forward and our Fear of falling flat on our ass. Louse Hay suggests that Upper Thigh problems represent retaining childhood trauma.

Knees; Knees represent Pride. In spiritual practice it is suggested that one must go down before one can rise up, as Jesus did before John the Baptist, before taking up his own ministry. Pride or Ego keeps us from surrendering to the Will of God or the Universe. In practice, every time we move forward in Life or approach change, we approach the unknown. We may feel vulnerable or unsure. We may stand still, stiff kneed resisting the winds of change. It is interesting to note that stiff, sore knees are a symptom of Kidney deficiency, whose emotion is Fear. Rather than admit our fear, we resist it until it overwhelms us. While knees represent Pride, and it is said that ‘Pride goes before the fall’, knees can also represent Humility which is the wisdom to be yielding in the face of change.

Briefly, Knee problems may be said to indicate being stuck in the Ego, too proud to bend. Louise Hay also suggests that Knees represent Pride and the Ego.

Shins; The Shins represent another weak link. Although the Shins are mostly bone, the hardest substance in the body, the Shins are actually quite sensitive and brittle. A slight whack on the Shins is not only painful, it weakens the entire body and stops it cold. When we have organized ourselves to move forward, to take the next step towards the goal we have set, and are in the process of taking it, something comes along and sends you tumbling. It is something we trip over because we don’t see it, even though it is right there in front of us. In ancient times the shin pads that worriers wore were called greaves. Very often what trips us up is something, the loss of which we haven’t properly grieved. Moving forward always means something gets left behind. Interesting to note is that the three Yin channels of the foot all criss cross at Spleen 6 (Sanyinjiao), representing a confluence of Worry, Anger, and Fear. Moving forward is often marked by a jumble of emotional responses which need to be sorted out, especially if we are resisting it. Louise Hay suggests that problems are fear of the future; not wanting to move ahead.

Ankles; Ankles represent flexibility, which is important as one navigates the twists and turns of Life. Stiff, painful ankles means that change is difficult for you. Maybe you are one who digs in your heels and resists moving forward. The more Life forces change upon you, the deeper you dig in. A broken ankle is a good sign to develop some flexibility in your Life. Louise Hay suggests that ankles represent mobility and direction.

Feet; Our feet represent our connection with Mother Earth. Sore, swollen, numb or painful feet represent the state of our relation with our Mother. Mother Earth, and our base energies. While it is legs that carry us forward into Life, it is the feet that actually make contact with the ground and can stop any advance, or at least make it difficult. In modern society with its asphalt, concrete and High Rises, we lose touch with the Earth and its energies. This may be reflected in our relationship to the one who gave birth to us. Separation can cause real pain.

All the Leg Yin & Yang channels meet and flow into each other in the toes. This is an area of high energy and strong effect on the body. This is an area where strong energies are in transition, so our contact with Mothers, Mother Earth and our base energies is always ambivalent. We want to draw closer to that love, but at the same time move away on our own course.

In my experience, the feet often store toxic energies (as often to do with grief or resentments as not), as far away from the Heart as possible. This means, in the feet. Often, these are issues that go all the way back to childhood. Lacking the tools to effectively release grief or resentment the body stores it, like it stores fat.

Over time, more and more toxic energies are stored here and fill up the receptacle. In many cases, the entire leg can become involved and the waste starts leaking back into the system. This is a very serious situation indeed, that can lead to amputations, blood disorders and even death, as the body struggles to protect the Heart. Metaphysically, it becomes clear that the space you are standing in is painful. The key is to move on. Stop dwelling on the past, release or transform whatever it is that keeps you emotionally standing still. Louise Hay suggests that feet represent our understanding of ourselves, of Life, and others, and toes represent minor details of the future.

Your Throat

The Throat represents our Will, and our ability to communicate, both with others and with ourselves. 

Sore throats, lumps in the throat, tumors all represent difficulties in saying what we want to say. Lumps, both physical tumors and those that are non-manifest (Hystericus Globus) are our willful attempts to block free expression of emotion and of our identity. The Throat is another one of those weak links that can seduce or sabotage you from your path. The Throat is the channel between the Head and the Heart.

In Chinese Medicine it is said the Heart houses the Mind, especially in its connection with the emotion of Joy and the expression of Love for ourselves and for others. Have you ever had a great idea, gotten your body motivated, put your Heart into it, only to say something completely stupid which makes a mess of things? Have you ever felt the urge to say something complimentary and suppressed it? Have you ever just blurted out something that just seemed to by-pass the brain?

How often does a careless or ill chosen word create havoc in your Life? Where this comes from is all the things you have not said over the years that get stuck in the throat, needing to get out, and out they come, one way or the other.

All emotions are designed to be expressed, even the ones we judge to be negative and especially the ones we judge to be positive. Louise Hay calls the the Throat an avenue of expression and a channel of creativity.

Problems indicate an inability to speak up for one’s self, swallowed anger, stifled creativity and refusal to change.

Thyroid problems indicate difficulty in analyzing, digesting and assimilating the communication between the Head and the Heart.

Your Chest/Breasts

The chest area represents the Feminine principal of nurturing and nourishing the connection with the ‘breath of Life’ as it flows through the Lungs. In men, pain or discomfort, not associated with any organ or vessel represents a disconnection from the Feminine principal.

Breast envy, may exist in men; the desire to connect with the feminine side, the same way penis envy is said to exist in women; the desire to connect with the masculine side.

In Chinese Medicine, the front is considered Yin. The chest is the confluence of the three most important kinds of Qi, that nourish the body; Zhong Qi, from the Lungs, Jing Qi, from the Spleen, and Yuan Qi from the Kidneys. Breast problems represents a denial of the Mother/feminine principal to nourish the self and to nourish others.

Louise Hay suggest also that the breasts represent mothering and nurturing. Cysts, lumps etc. represents over mothering.

Your Solar Plexus

Is said to the be the seat of the Ego and Individuation. Some call this the Negative Ego. In general this area represents the conflicts in your life. Pain or discomfort in the Diaphragm area represents unresolved conflicts. In Chinese Medicine, pain in this area indicates Liver Qi Stagnation, usually associated with Anger.

Your Stomach

The stomach represents digestion, not only of food and physical nutrients, but of new ideas, new ways of doing things, and accepting change of any kind.

The Stomach is nothing more than a big flexible bag of muscle whose job it is to ripen and rot whatever is put into it.

That is, its job is to break down what is put into it into a form that the body can deal with. This it does by adding Hydrochloric Acid, Hormones, Enzymes and Bile which reduces every sold morsel into an undifferentiated mass called Chyme.

Simultaneously it rocks back and forth swishing and swilling this mess until it is liquefied and able to pass through the small Pyloric Valve into the Small Intestine where the actual absorption of nutrients mostly takes place.

Metaphysically, when we come upon a new idea or a new way of doing things, the process is similar. First we must swallow the idea, either whole or in handy bite sized morsels, break it down into a form we can handle and finally absorb that which we need to nourish ourselves.

In the same way that a bad diet poisons the body, toxic ideas, suppressed emotions and resistance to change can have a poisoning effect. In traditional Chinese Medicine, long standing emotional disharmony is seen as a primary cause of disease. Strengthening the Spleen/Stomach which between them are responsible for transforming food and water into Qi, and transporting it throughout the body, is seen as a key strategy to deal with almost any disease.

Metaphysically we need to nourish ourselves every day, just as we need to eat nourishing foods. Just as the physical body needs nourishment to grow and carry on its day to day activities, so do the Emotional, Mental, and Spiritual bodies. Metaphysically, ‘wellness’ is not accomplished by a change in diet alone. Louise Hay suggests that the stomach holds nourishment, digests ideas.

I hope this will spark a new understanding for you and lead you to reach out, whether it be to me or whomever you feel most drawn to in the New Year coming up for the best and healthiest year of your life…

When we expand our hearts and minds and go outside of what we have been taught… we find that there is so much more there within to explore…..

It will lead you to wellness like you have never ever know (I am living proof)!

You Never know where that wellness will lead you!


Becky JO

Flying High above the lower mind.

Healing Depression/Anxiety and Past Traumas

Just in case you feel yourself sinking I heard your SOS.

I figured it would be a good time to talk to you about Depression and Anxiety (past Traumas), which if we aren’t careful during this life-changing time……can lead us not only into temptation of letting ourselves be stricken with the lower vibrational emotions; but can also take us down the path of addictions…

It is vitally important that we stay in our hearts (work on healing them…) as much as possible during times like these where things are very uncertain and all we have for sure is FAITH…. work on raising our vibrations daily through meditation/prayer, and work on focusing on our blessings; rather than our Stressings and messings (or what your mind thinks is stressings and messings).

As most of us already know and already follow….. the law of attraction is a very important piece of this…

Right now, during this great time of change and transformation, each of us is being invited to connect deep within ourselves and work on being more mindful of all of the Energetic laws of the Universe… the law of attraction is vital right now though!

I can’t say for sure whether or not the Law of Attraction is a true and real thing..

But I know for sure that becoming aware of it and the energy in my own E-Motions has made such a significant impact on my own life and career that I feel I must share and get this out there for others to feel inspired to change your lives too!

WHY? Because we are co-creators guys!

What I have learned since my healing journey started is that our E-Motions are energetic. They have energy/frequency and depending on which E-motion you carry around most of the time…. Will ultimately determine your frequency of your physical body, mind, and soul (your vibe).

E-motions are your soul light energy in motion… it is how you communicate with your whole be-ing on how you FEEL about certain situations, people, things, etc.

E-Motions are meant to be the “stimulus” that MOVES you to dive deep within your eternal self in order to work THROUGH what you are feeling and see where the imbalance is.. recognize what part of you is in the darkness and invite that piece back home to the heart….. make a more empowered choice for you and bring all of you back to the light within….. 

Once you live this as a lifestyle, it gets easier and easier to crack through the tough hard shells we have all placed around ourselves when things in life were either misunderstood, or we felt the need for protection…..Layer by layer we learn about ourselves and who we truly are.. not what life and other Human beings have told us we are!

I learned this with my own journey 10 years ago and I continue to watch this be true for every single client that comes to me looking for help healing traumas and past E-motional wounds.

You see what we weren’t taught growing up is that E-Motions are the response information that is fed to our computers (AKA BRAINS) that help us process the situation.

E-Motions are the energy (Consciousness) that resonates at a different Hrtz …

Depending on which one we are carrying around most of the time… (literally carrying around because Humans have an energetic/E-Motional field around our physical bodies that cannot typically be seen with the Naked eye)

Will determine whether we are expanded or contracted….

If you are not allowing these E-motions to process as they are meant to…

Then your life will stay stuck in loops and cycles over and over and over….

However…… if you take the time to listen to your self…

Stop… be still… listen (shhhh)

To your mind (what is it telling you?)

To your body (what is it saying?)

Your soul/Energy/E-Motion (how does it feel?)

You can work through anything… releasing the lessons to a higher understanding..

Releasing yourself from victim mentality into seeing the blessings in your life’s experiences.


The frequency we are floating at on an energetic level will attract more of the same frequency..



We attract the energy of what our realities (lives) are, whether we realize it or not!

If we focus on what’s wrong and keep telling the stories of abuse, neglect, trauma, and past hurts…

Well that is how our lives will continue to be!

Because the Universe doesn’t communicate in words…

It communicates in frequency/vibration…

The frequency signals you send out……

Are the exact same frequency you will be sent more of (literally cuz its at your level of existence)…..

I know this is a little deep guys….. but hear me out……

I know… I know…. you are probably either saying “YES Becky Jo… I agree!…I have learned this personally already!”


“Ummm ya that’s all good and gravy, but easier said then done! I have had too many horrible things happen to me in my life and I do not know where to even begin to try and get over it!”

and…. that is why I am doing this post…

Because I took my life from Dramas and Traumas….


Blessings and Progressings (I just made that word up too lol)!!!

It wasn’t easy to rise up out of the darkness and it sure isn’t easy to maintain that level of happiness at first…

Until you keep working on it and stay focused and eventually one day you wake up and realize that you have completely changed your lifestyle, way of thinking, and the energy of who you are without even realizing you have done so.

You will see yourself reacting completely different to situation that used to send you through the roof…

You will find yourself excited to have others vibrating at your frequency…


You will wake up each morning feeling blessed instead of stressed….

How do we do this?

How do we heal those past traumas and move forward… release who we used to be?

How do we go from a victim of life to a fulfilled person who helps pull others out of their victim-hood?

I work with clients, family, and friends every single day that are in the dooms of despair.

Somehow people always just seem to reach out to me when they feel like they need support (it has always been that way)…


I haven’t always been this empowered version of me you know….

I too had lots of learning and growing and changing my ways so I could create a better life and light the way for others to do the same when they are ready!

I haven’t always been the one who is in eternal inner peace most of the time and nor have I always been someone who overcame my traumas, depression/anxieties…

Years ago, when I was in my Early 30’s I was as lost as it gets.

After many years of traumas, losses, extreme abuse, and self loathing, which led to….. making very low vibrational choices, just trying to “survive”……..

Which eventually on that path leads to……..

Homelessness, my family turning their backs on me, losing jobs, lying to make myself feel better about who I was, violence, and just barely living……

and many many many health issues that I didn’t realize at the time were all caused from the negative emotions that I was carrying in my shit storm!

I was in a victim mentality and it left me many negative patterns of destruction!

I blamed my parents, I blamed my friends when they didn’t feel sorry for me, I blamed everything on everyone else in my life.

Because it couldn’t be me that was causing my life to spiral out of control could it?

I mean.. I was dealt a pretty bad hand, right?

I had panic attacks daily, I was on medication for depression, I hated life and thought about ending it often…

Until one day when someone told me to “Meditate” to help with panic attacks….

I was desperate to try and feel “Normal” and I was ready to try just about anything, so I humored the person and tried it…

I logged on to Youtube and searched “Meditation for panic attacks”; I found one and closed my eyes and followed along…

I cannot stress to you enough that this was the moment that changed my whole life!

I couldn’t believe how much better I felt…. I started doing it daily and before I knew it, It led me to doing other meditations, which then led me to connecting to God and the Divine realms (Even though I had been doing this my entire life…. now I understood what was happening)…

It wasn’t long after that, that I started to work on healing my emotional traumas….

Not long after that, I led myself right into a “Spiritual Awakening” where my whole life flashed in front of my eyes and I knew without a doubt why I had gone through each and every single one of the traumas that I had.

(This also led me to starting a YouTube channel of my own where I lead others in doing meditation! you should check it out…)

Once I understood this and saw the big picture, I was able to forgive, let go, release the past and send love to all those who had hurt me….

I began to truly love and honor myself and I realized that those who didn’t love me for who I was … were truly missing out!

I got into healthy patterns in relationships, in taking care of my body, mind, and soul…..

I got off of all the medications I was on.. didn’t need them!

Once we decide to take responsibility for our own actions and and we realize that the law of attraction is for real…

Once we see that what others have done to us was never about us in the first place and that…


We can understand that and be freed from the shackles of depression and anxiety….

We are co-creators of our own experiences… and we MUST take responsibility for our own actions and E-motions…

Once we realize and truly understand that we are all here for a purpose and that these traumas are our “Lessons” we are meant to learn…

Once we see and clearly understand that it is none of our business what other people think of us…

and we clearly see and understand that we cannot control other people… PERIOD (not what they do, not what they think).

and we clearly see and understand that we cannot control other people… PERIOD (not what they do, not what they think).

when we understand that everyone is vibrating that a different frequency and those that we long for in our lives may not be at the level we are at (due to their own afflictions that they haven’t dealt with yet)

When we learn to let go of what no longer serves our highest and best goods….

Then we can begin our journeys into self healing and empowering!

Once we are free and clear and in a high vibrational reality…

Then we can begin our journey into healing and empowering others (because that is part of each and every single one of our purposes here on Earth!)

How do we start you may ask?

Good Question…

Well since I am a “Healer” and a Certified Master Herbalist/Master Aromatherapist and since I am someone who heals myself and others using a “Whole-istic” (hence my healing practice being called Wholeistic Healing) approach, I am going to give you some ideas of things you can do to heal yourself…

**Please know that these are all Natural solutions that worked for me and I am not telling anyone to go out and just stop taking any prescription medications they are on!***


The mind is either a “Dangerous” thing or a “GLORIOUS”
tool in healing..

Healing your mind it the first place to start when it comes to healing depression/anxiety; because it is what ultimately decides what our thoughts are, right?

I am telling you that if you are depressed, the first step into feeling better is to find self love and self empowerment!

In terms of Law of Attraction, we can have a positive mindset that brings joy, peace, harmony, and balance to our day to day existence…

which then in turn will bring high vibrating emotions to us and then Universe can’t help but send things and situations (people) to our lives that are high vibrating.. bringing us more Joy, peace, harmony, and Balance!

I am not kidding you guys, it saved my life! Many people say to me “I don’t have time” or “I should but I don’t”.
well YOU MUST! take 20 minutes per day and MEDITATE… go within and connect to God (source) and the Angels. I do not care what kind of meditation you do, but it keeps up in a high vibration and you will much easier be able to pull yourself out if you begin to slip into the abyss again!

Saying positive affirmations three times a day (morning, mid-day, and at night)—such as “I love and accept myself,” “I am at peace in my life,” “I deserve to be happy,” “I feel good physically, mentally, and emotionally”—dispels the negative chatter.

One of the biggest things that is guaranteed to bring you out of depression/anxiety and negative patterns (thought forms and beliefs) is the Law of attraction Instead of focusing on what is wrong… focus on what is right in your life. Have Gratitude and appreciation for what you have.. even if it isn’t all you want…. It will indefinitely bring more of it to you!
Focusing on the solution of what’s bothering you is highly effective as well…. instead of fixating on the problem. Worrying only increases stress-levels.

Truly think about every single situation that you have ever been involved in where you feel you were a “Victim”. What did the other person do to you? What made that person do it to you? What part did you have in them doing it to you?

Listen.. even if you truly cannot think of anything you could have possibly done to cause others to harm you with their words and actions… even if you truly were a “Victim” in any of the situations that are haunting you deep in your mind… it is up to you to take responsibility for healing yourself from it. It is your responsibility to truly and deeply forgive the other person for it.(Not for them..

FOR YOU and your well being so you are no longer harboring the negative energy of the events)…

keeping in mind always that as you do this you are releasing the negative energy surrounding the situations and taking your first steps to permanently healing them!

When you get to the place where you are no longer energetically living in those situations anymore and you truly bring them up, feel them, heal them and then release them… you are energetically climbing up that vibration scale that I love so much ( talk about it just about daily! lol)
Focusing on the solution instead of the problem is a highly effective way to bring positive energy into your mind as well.

THEN... you can more easily focus on your BLESSINGS and not your stressings!

Please reach out if you are not at a place where you know exactly what is making you depressed or you are not strong enough emotionally to deal with things on your own. Healers like me are very happy and honored to be a piece of the puzzle in your healing (or we can help you put the puzzle pieces together). There are so many therapies and modalities that all of us “Healers” know and use religiously (lol.. get it… “Religiously? hehe)


When it comes to your physical body

The usual treatments for depression are prescription antidepressant medications which, in theory, work by increasing levels of “feel good” brain chemicals.

But prescription antidepressants have been charted to work for less than half of those who try them and have a high relapse rate.

There’s evidence they are no more effective than a placebo, but have a lot more side effects.

If you’ve gone the medical route with little success and want to go the “Natural” route instead of using medication, then fortunately there are many natural ways to treat depression that have been scientifically proven to work often as good as or better than antidepressants.

to have Truly good health as a whole is keeping a balance in your physical body…. in depression and anxiety’s case it comes with keeping a balance in your brain as well…

Diet, exercise and some really awesome Herbal Medicines (Including herbs and essential oils) when needed are the 3 best ways to create this “Balance”,,,

With all of the debates out there now a days on which “Diet” is best for who’s body.. it is hard to say which one in particular is best for you (without doing a personal consult with me anyway.. lol)

However, without a doubt, all of the healthy diet plans out there all have the same goal in the end and that is that… they all focus mostly on eating “Whole” and “Real” foods.

Processed food, fast food and commercial baked goods are linked to depression. The benefits of eating unprocessed food are twofold. First, it greatly increases your chances of getting the vitamins, minerals, amino acids, and other nutrients your brain needs to function. And secondly, it eliminates additives known to contribute to depression like white sugar, MSG and artificial sweeteners.

You guys…. the processed and chemically enhanced foods out there that are full of preservatives are not recognized by your body as “Food”…. so therefor as soon as your body tries to break them down… it CANT….. so it will sit in your system and literally rot in your intestines and eventually be sucked into your system somewhere….

Your brain is where the signals come from right? so when the stomach says “Ummmmm…. dude… what should i do with these preservatives that are preserving the foods we are trying to digest? They aren’t breaking down and we need the room for the incoming load… we need to empty out please!”

and then the Brain replies and states “10/4 good buddy I hear ya; however, I just spoke to liver and he is on overtime, kidneys are short handed, and spleen quit last week… I am not sure what to do…. I will check with intestines and see where they are at…”

…… and… then the intestines say “Are you freakin serious? I am still trying to absorb last month’s loads and not to mention the alcohol and caffeine that I just received! I just can’t today guys!”

and then the poisons and toxins are sent to the cells of the body to carry and the lymphatic system says, “I will try my best, but we need a break very soon or else we will have to create cancer cells….”

By this time, the brain doesn’t have synchronicity with the body anymore…

and this happens over and over throughout the years and years and just like the patterns in the mind that become unhealthy.. so do the patterns in the physical body and the brain becomes unbalanced!

Do you think the brain is very happy about this? I am guessing not, since we can all feel the tension between the organs just reading about their frustrations!


we should be eating whole foods that were put on this Planet by God (source) that are intended to keep the physical body happy, healthy,, and balanced (and they more easily processed and digested and supplement the organs instead of separate them!)

Eating a balanced diet with lots of greens, reducing processed sugars, and drinking lots of water is not only healthier for your body, it also nourishes the mind.

Besides eating unprocessed food, the other dietary rule for depression is to eat plenty of healthy fats. Your brain is largely made of fat — about 60 percent by dry weight. A lot of that is cholesterol since 25 percent of the body’s cholesterol resides in the brain.

Cholesterol, in spite of what we’ve been told, does not cause heart disease. But too little cholesterol increases your risk of depression and even suicide.

(healthy fats like nuts, avocados, coconut oil, olive oil, wild salmon and grass-fed meat will help keep your brain balanced.)

Coconut oil uniquely feeds the brain with medium-chain fatty acids

People with depression tend to have lower blood levels of omega-3 essential fatty acids.

Omega-3s are an integral structural component of brain cell membranes and nerve cells. One omega-3 in particular that’s critical for brain function is docosahexaenoic acid (DHA). DHA deficiency is linked to depression, bipolar disorder, and schizophrenia.

The best dietary sources of omega-3 fats and DHA are cold-water fatty fish like salmon and sardines. If these are not a regular part of your diet, consider taking a fish oil or a DHA supplement.

Physical exercise is one of the best things you can do for elevating your mood. It increases circulation to deliver more oxygen, glucose, and nutrients to your brain while clearing out toxins and metabolic debris.

Exercise builds a healthier brain by increasing the levels of brain chemicals that promote new brain cell formation and new neural connections. It actually reorganizes the brain so that it responds better to stress.

Regular physical exercise has been found to work better for depression than SSRIs (selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors), the drugs usually prescribed for depression.

according to Dr. John Ratey, renowned psychiatrist…

” Aside from elevating endorphins, exercise also increases our body and brain levels of endocannabinoids, brain growth factors (BDNF) and regulates all of the neurotransmitters targeted by antidepressants.”

besides… when we exercise or physically are up and around… we just literally feel better about everything!


Most people are not aware of a powerful force called spirituality, which once embraced in our lives can help us to heal ourselves and heal others.

How can spirituality help in treatment of depression?

To answer this question, you need to first ask yourself, what is the root cause of depression?

Depression is not caused by an event, a person, or a situation; it is caused by a disturbance in the spiritual equilibrium.

This refers to the fact that when there is more negative states in our mind and negative energy in our body as opposed to positive energy then depression occurs. The lack of positive energy hampers the balance between the mind, body, and soul.

It is only through practice of spiritual healing that you will be able to restore this balance and thus treat depression.

Now the question is where do you start?

What you really need is more and more positive energy. The best way to drive positive energy is by becoming one with your inner self.

The objective of spirituality is to help you create and control good energy and help you to heal yourself using this energy.

Healing by using various spiritual techniques helps to calm the mind and relax the body.

Depression is a mind disease and the path of spirituality helps you to gain control over your mind. There are several spiritual paths that you can choose but the easiest path to natural healing is through meditation.

Meditation not only help us to relax the mind an body. …. but it connects us to God (source), our Angels, and spirit guides…

The energy we feel when “Connected” to the white light not only brings us the energy of unconditional love.. but the most positively charged energy you will ever feel anywhere!

There may be things from your past lives that need to be healed and you can find these and figure them out through “Past life regression”…

The main objective to healing things “Spiritually” is getting down to the root cause….. which you can’ help but stumble upon when you are truly doing your “Soul work”, right?

Many of the things that lead us to depression can be spiritual in nature…but by discovering your “Higher self”… you will then know the truth of who you really are and find your life’s purpose….’

That always leads to someone finding a greater purpose and the knowing that the things you went through were not in vain (Just like my story…)

Just the knowing that you are a spiritual being having a human existence is an amazingly positive way to find your attitude of gratitude……

Now I know this post is long and if you are still reading this, then you won’t mind me going into a few of my favorite and most used healing herbs and essential oils that will help with depression (which you ca get any of these from me if you feel so inclined…. but if not from me, please get them from a reliable source… always!)

These or any combination of these (I make some really good teas, tinctures, syrups, and essential oil roll can purhase on my website!

Herbs: st. johns wort, Lavender, Lemon Balm, Chamomile, Kava root, Ginko, Hawthorne, and California Poppy to name a very few…

Essential oils: Lavender, chamomile, Rose, Melissa, Vetiver, Ylang Ylang, Bergamot, grapefruit,Marjoram, and Frankincense to name a few.

Whether you use these topically in a roll on blend from me or you use them aromatically by method of inhalation they help so much,

When used topically, they reach the bloodstream and help almost instantly…..

When used aromatically, the scents reach the brain through the Limbic system, they bring peace, joy, calm, and positive feelings and thinking!

or spiritual protecting oils and herbs, which keeps the negative energies far far away from you (please message me for more info on these if you are interested).

I send you love and eternal peace…


Becky Jo