Do you truly Love yourself?

What is “Self Love” and how do we practice this?

Do you hear what I hear?

Self-love is a popular term today that gets tossed around in normal conversation. “You have to love yourself more.” “Why don’t you love yourself?” “If you only loved yourself, this wouldn’t have happened to you.” “You can’t love another person until you love yourself first.”

These are just a few of the self-love directives that we give or get to suggest a way to more living fulfillment.

Self-love is important to living well. It influences who you pick for a mate, the image you project at work, and how you cope with the problems in your life. It is so important to your welfare that I want you to know how to bring more of it into your life.

what is “Self Love” then?

What is self-love, then? Is it something you can buy in a beauty makeover or a new set of clothing?

Can you get more of it by reading something inspirational?

Or, can a new relationship make you love yourself more?

The answer to all of these questions is No!

Although they feel good and are gratifying, you can’t grow in self-love through these types of activities. Since, self-love is not simply a state of feeling good.

Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.

Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us.

When we act in ways that expand self-love in us, we begin to accept much better our weaknesses as well as our strengths, have less need to explain away our short-comings, have compassion for ourselves as human beings struggling to find personal meaning, are more centered in our life purpose and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.

The Great Louise Hay once said

“When people start to love themselves more each day, it’s amazing how their lives get better. They feel better. They get the jobs they want. They have the money they need. Their relationships either improve, or the negative ones dissolve and new ones begin.”

Louise Hay

What is love anyway?

Life is a voyage of self discovery……….

To me, to be enlightened (Within your own light)It’s not selfish to love ourselves. It clears us so that we can love ourselves enough to love other people. We can really help the planet when we come from a space of great love and joy on an individual basis.

It is to go within and to know who and what we really are, and to know that we have the ability to change for the better by loving and taking care of ourselves.

The Power that created this incredible Universe has often been referred to as love.


We have all often heard the statement: Love makes the world go ’round.

It’s all true. Love is the binding agent that literally holds the Universe together… its an energy.. a frequency.. a FORCE….

To me, love is a deep appreciation.

When I talk about loving ourselves, I mean having a deep appreciation for who we are. We accept all the different parts of ourselves—our little peculiarities, the embarrassments, the things we may not do so well, and all the wonderful qualities, too.

We accept the whole package with love. Unconditionally.​

What if I do not know how to love myself?

Listen, I definitely know how hard it is to step out of the box and truly see things from a different perspective…..

Unfortunately… society has had some very horrible habits in the past couple of thousands of years….. but that is why YOU are here! YES YOU…..

Each one of us walking the planet at this time came here to discovery LOVE and to understand it and to finally break through those barriers into a newer and better tomorrow for all of humanity…

but it starts with each of us individually….

Society teaches us that it is not ok to love thy self and unfortunately most people are trained to put “Conditions” on LOVE….especially self-love.

They say “I will love myself when I lose weight” or “I will love myself when I get the ideal job”…. or the house, or the mate, or whatever it is that society has taught them to believe they need to accomplish before they can start to focus on loving themselves




We are in the midst of enormous individual and global change. I believe that all of us who are living at this time chose to be here to be a part of these changes, to bring about change, and to transform the world from the old way of life to a more loving and peaceful existence.

In the Piscean Age we looked “out there” for our savior: “Save me. Save me. Please take care of me.”

Now we are moving into the Aquarian Age, and we are learning to go within to find our savior.

We are the power we have been seeking. (and Jesus is within us …… he always was!)

We Are In Charge Of Our lives

If you are not willing to love yourself today, then you are not going to love yourself tomorrow, because whatever excuse you have today, you’ll still have tomorrow.

Maybe you’ll have the same excuse 20 years from now, and even leave this lifetime holding on to the same excuse.

Today is the day you can love yourself totally with no expectations.

Love is something we can choose, the same way we choose anger, or hate, or sadness.

We can choose to forgive someone who has hurt us (cuz they know not what they do.. literally) and begin to finally heal…..

We can choose to be grateful for what we have. (Even if it isn’t exactly what we want at the moment.. with more self love the energy will shift and you will bring heaven to Earth in many areas of your life)….

We can choose love………….SELF LOVE…….. It’s always a choice within us.

ok I choose self love… how do I practice this?

  1. Become mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel and want. They are mindful of who they are and act on this knowledge, rather than on what others want for them. Truly believe in yourself and your soul mission and stick to that.. period!
  2. Act on what you need rather than what you want. You love yourself when you can turn away from something that feels good and exciting to what you need to stay strong, centered, and moving forward in your life, instead. By staying focused on what you need, you turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get you into trouble, keep you stuck in the past, and lessen self-love.
  3. Practice good self-care. You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleepintimacy and healthy social interactions.
  4. Set boundaries.  AND STICK TO THEM…You’ll love yourself more when you set limits or say no to work, love, or activities that deplete or harm you physically, emotionally and spiritually, or express poorly who you are.
  5. Protect yourself. Bring the right people into your life. I love the term frenemies that I learned from my younger clients. It describes so well the type of “friends” who take pleasure in your pain and loss rather than in your happiness and success. My suggestion to you here: Get rid of them by choosing to lovingly leave them in the past. There isn’t enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the shine on your face that says, “I genuinely love myself and life”. You will love and respect yourself more…. the more difficult people you release from your life… the more your vibration raises and happier more loving people will arrive (when you are happier and more loving of you)
  6. FORGIVE yourself. We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of taking responsibility for our actions is punishing ourselves too much for mistakes in learning and growing (STOP IT)…. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect), before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures, if you have learned and grown from your mistakes; there are only lessons learned.
  7. Live intentionally……. You will accept and love yourself more, whatever is happening in your life, when you live with purpose and design. Your purpose doesn’t have to be crystal clear to you. If your intention is to live a meaningful and healthy life, you will make decisions that support this intention, and feel good about yourself when you succeed in this purpose. You will love yourself more if you see yourself accomplishing what you set out to do. You need to establish your living intentions, to do this.

If you choose just one or two of these self-love actions to work on, you will begin to accept and love yourself more. Just imagine how much you’ll appreciate you when you exercise these seven-steps to self-love.

It is true that you can only love a person as much as you love yourself.

If you exercise all of the actions of self-love that I describe here, you will allow and encourage others to express themselves in the same way. The more self-love you have for yourself, the better prepared you are for healthy relating. Even more, you will start to attract people and circumstances to you that support your well-being.

Listen… I know this doesn’t happen overnight and in order to truly have self-love, we must re-program our belief system….

ONE DAY AT A TIME… but step by step and day by day….. things will start to flow and life will become more then you ever imagined it could be… JUST BY LOVING YOURSELF!




Becky Jo

The True FREEDOM of Forgiveness

Breaking FREE of your own internal prison

Hello Butterflies…

It is with my warmest regards that I bring to you some information in healing your heart today!

There is a very powerful triple Conjunction planetary alignment/Solstice/Full Moon energy on the Planet this week that is pulling at everyone’s deepest Heart strings (literally)..

The power of this “Triple Treat” full moon is bringing up change for us all and without a doubt has had an impact on all of us and our emotional tides!

With that said, the reason for this is because like the Moon moves the tides in the ocean… so does it move the tides within us!

Stuff is being stirred up n us that we have no choice but to deal with.

Beautiful Souls…..

We are all moving into a New Paradigm of Frequencies on the planet and in our own energy bodies……(Even if you are not someone who is aware of or believes in the Human Energy field, it is still happening to you!)

So many MIRACLES are manifesting for all of us recently!!! The Energy on the planet is raising in frequency more and more every single day as more and more Humans are waking up to realize that they DO have a choice and they we ARE our own keepers!

As these profound spiritual awakenings are happening faster and faster now…. the LOVE energy continues to warm our hearts more and more every single moment….

This month alone, there are so many celestial events occuring for the unique purpose of helping us shift our perspectives from feeling like we are a victim to our circumstances….. to KNOWING that we are in fact Survivors and VICTORS!!!

Every single thing you have gone through in your life has been on purpose… for a purpose…. to lead you to your life’s purpose! (Believe that!)…

Now that you are awake and aware that you are a spiritual/energetic being in physical form…….

it is time for you to finally let go of everything you thought you knew… everything you thought you were…. and heal those Heart chakras……… truly do the “Soul Work” you came here to do…..

so that you can finally align with your highest and best future of magic and miracles and service unto others! (That is why we are here as light workers… to serve Humanity during this evolution process)….

Now since we are talking about Miracles……. let me just say that in order to align with miracles in your life, you must change your perspective and change your mind on how you feel about unconditional love and forgiveness….

Because the Heart Chakra is at the Heart and soul of New Beginnings…..I felt it appropriate to learn about the “Heart Chakra” and all her glory today!

The power of all these celestial events happening this month are bringing up so much immense change for us all and without a doubt has had an impact on all of us and our emotional tides!

Things have come to light for many and although so many of us in our culture still are not believers in the “Chakra” systems and “Energy” medicine… the non-believers are feeling the affects too (even if they do not realize or understand this).

If you have been feeling sick this week for no reason (that you know of) it is because your heart chakra is in a sort of “Reboot”…

The Heart Chakra is an energy vortex that pulls love, compassion, intimacy, empathy, forgiveness, and self-love energy in and out of our entire beings!

SO if your Heart Chakra is plugged up with muck of the past, limited beliefs, Depression, Jealousy, greed, or egotistical thoughts… you will physically feel sick!

The Heart Chakra controls the Heart, lungs, diaphragm, upper spine, shoulders, arms, and your circulatory systems (including blood and lymph).

If you are holding on to negative emotions and unforgiveness.. you best believe that these physical areas in your body will suffer the consequences of it!

There was a situation this week where someone who has historically (in the past) done very bad things to me in my life is going through one of the worst things imaginable and is in a crisis:

However….My love and compassion (pure empathy) that I have felt for this person is unconditional.

Someone asked me “Becky.. I just do not understand how you can even feel the least bit sorry for that person after everything that person has done to you!”


“How can you possibly even care about that person’s well being?”

To this I state with a HUGE amount of LOVE ENERGY……

Listen…. When I had my spiritual awakening, I learned many things. One of them being..

FORGIVENESS is the key to a healthy Heart Chakra (which also means a healthy physical heart).

I learned that I must let everything that I was carrying around with me go..

literally let it come to the surface, truly let myself feel the hurt (emotion) of it, think about (and pray) the lessons I was meant to learn from the situation(s)…

and then GIVE THEM TO GOD the Creator or Mother Earth… whichever you feel is appropriate (release them back to the Universe and forgive unconditionally)!

When I started to do this… I found…

1) My life began to take turns in a positive direction
2) The heaviness and burden I carried went away
3) I could see people clearly and could understand their struggle
4) I realized it was never my struggle in the first place
5) I FELT SO MUCH BETTER (body, mind, and soul)

You guys… these are our soul lessons (our life’s work!) We are not built to carry around the ugly negative emotions that we all seem to hold on to….

Truly look at the person who hurt you.. truly ask yourself “Why did he/she do that to me? What is going on (or what happened) in their life that made them act the way they did?

When you do this, you will see, know, an understand that…


The energy of their hurts and struggles were never yours in the first place…..

In order to live a happy, healthy, an abundant life.. you must FORGIVE ALWAYS!

I continue every day to help people in the clinic who come see me for healing to understand that…

Your Mother’s Pain …is NOT your pain!

Your Father’s Pain… is NOT your pain!

Your Ancestor’s Pain.. is NOT your pain!!

This is old paradigm stuff….. many of us were taught to carry the Burdon of everyone around us and many of us carry it like Jesus carried his cross. We just unknowingly believe that we must do this to help heal the suffering of others. Somewhere in our sensitivities, we misunderstood what it means to help heal the suffering of others…… we thought we must carry the load, because energetically it felt like noone else was gonna do it!

But…. in the New Paradigm we are all headed towards…

We finally open our hearts enough to realize and truly understand what it means…

In order for Humanity to truly heal from all of the generations of suffering, we must each work on our own inner wounds…..

We must learn that…….When you forgive and resolve deep inner conflict within yourself..

You are releasing and resolving deep inner conflict for all of Humanity as a side affect…

You do it for all of the collective…..

We all do!

This doesn’t mean that you are saying what they did to you was ok… this doesn’t mean that you do not deserve better (because you do!)

What this means is that you accept things for what they are, and you decide to see the bigger picture, look at it from the other person’s point of view… and you take back control of your own reality!

By working on these things (traumas and hurts) that hold us back, due to their negative energy…

By releasing the past and forgiving… we help ourselves move forward in clear, positive, loving, and forgiving energy!

You do not have to forgive for the benefit of the other person.. NOPE!

The Human part of you may not be ready to give benefit to your crucifier quite yet (that will come in time, with more and more heart healing, I promise you that)…..

But subconsciously, you benefit their soul too.. SO when you forgive you are choosing to take the higher path… to be the one who releases the bondage for you both!

Because…. when you decide to focus on healing your own heart of these things….

You are both freed of stuck and stagnant energy that is between you both…

When you Forgive and accept things truly for what they are.. see the soul lessons in it for both sides… and see the higher meaning……

Learn from it… and move forward……

You give yourself a huge love gift too!!

You forgive, because it is what is best for you and your well being…

By letting this go, you are releasing what you cannot control and learning and growing as a human being (and a soul)….

you do not even have to tell the person they are forgiven if you do not want to…..

but in your heart (chakra) you know that you have done your life’s work..

you have learned from the experience and by letting it go and embracing the positive in the situation (even if the positive is that you are able to release and forgive)…..

BUT… by doing this, you are pulling more positive experiences into your life…

And when you forgive, you release Judgement that you hold in your Heart….

Your vibration raises and one more petal in your heart chakra lotus opens up..

wide open in abundance…….

You will no longer attract situations such as that….

Why you ask?


When you focus on the negative and continue to tell your story as if you are a victim…. you continue to pull that into your life!

BUT… but releasing the fear, hurt, and negative emotions and forgiving… you are pulling happier and healthier situations into your existence!

Even Jesus forgave those who crucified him… for they “Know not what they do”…..

Live in your heart…. love unconditionally… and balance that Heart Chakra!!!

When your Heart chakra is balanced and elevated…. you will easily be able to FORGIVE!

If you need help working on your heart chakra, I am happy to work with you and help you to heal and be the very best version of you that you can be!!

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Many blessings to you all.. love and light….

NAMASTE (the divine in me hails the divine in you)


Becky Jo